It’s been a difficult few weeks and I’ve been pulled in many directions. I wish I had more time to take away from my businesses, but I just can’t right now.

I’m sure my father would love to see his legacy continue. Perhaps a steering/executive committee could be formed by you folks to discuss ways the mantra could continue and what roles might be needed. I would be more than happy to help facilitate that.

As it stands now, I will make sure all his work stays intact right where it is. Be assured this blog will not go away. Feel free to message me at s.allen.dean@gmail.com with any ideas.

And God bless all of you for your kind words, admiration, prayers, and love for Sir Guy and our family.

In sorrow,

Sir Guy, Jr.

1. Women live according to what their men say and want, except as the smarter woman conditions her man to help fulfill her hopes and dreams. She hears and heeds him in the short term, but she’s focused on the future. He finds her attractive, pursues, and wins her love, but he bypasses the thought that she has unfulfilled hopes and dreams that originate in childhood. She’s free to work on it secretly.
2. Ever present in background during pursuit, he continually seeks to bed her. She refuses and even rejects the concept without destroying his hope. Her love of him is neither admirable, nor a virtue, nor important to him except as it facilitates conquest. She does best to keep her developing love to herself. Save it until he earns it.
3. He keeps pursuing and learning about qualities that he admires. Until much later rather than sooner, he finds himself devoted to her such that he realizes she’s more important to him as partner than sex target. He recognizes that he truly loves her when he chooses the latter of these consequences: He’s satisfied with his present life and how he lives, but he expects to be more satisfied living with her, and it prompts his proposal.
4. Men pursue what’s hard to conquer; they seek to achieve and invest themselves in time, effort, and money to the extent she’s worthy of conquest. Men don’t love as women love. Neither do men recognize and appreciate how women love and expect to be loved in return. A woman expresses her love and appreciates herself for doing it. Her man may or may not derive pleasure or compliment from what she says. If she says it, he takes it more as deserved than admired, and he is that much nearer to conquest. If she doesn’t share her love, it’s not her loss but her gain. He has less knowledge of her to work with, which means he has to work harder to win her.
5. Modern women have long forgotten the need for religious and moral imperatives to keep men user friendly to women. Both porn and the pursuit of pleasure being the result of a man’s initiatives, they provide the easiest satisfaction about who he is, what he does, and who he does it with. Also, he finds it easy to love ever-greater pleasure, and he seeks an endless path to it. He has little or no need for a woman except for short range involvement.

I repeat the posting of article 2203. Eric wrote it to inform us of some fallout of Feminism made radioactive by men set on revenge. I share it with readers to remind all of us that the subjugation of women started earlier and conditions will be worse before better.

—2203 by Eric— an insider/outsider view of how radical men view the female nature as corrupt from birth.

Roosters, Gamecocks, and Capons

‘He rules the roost, she rules the rooster’. So it has been throughout history. Radical Feminism, encouraged by the Political Left, imposed a new paradigm which excluded the rooster. But the male gender did not disappear; however types of males who were once on the fringes rose to prominence.

Now a rooster follows the male nature; defending and providing for his roost, while performing other necessary work. But reactions to Feminism gave us the Manosphere which produces the Gamecock, a rooster who is bred for fighting and competition; and the Capon, a neutered rooster whose only purpose is to be eaten. The Manosphere—which once stood for the rights of men and the dignity of women—has fallen under the misogynist trends of these two types. The Gamecock is represented by the Game movement; the Capon from the so-called Men’s Human Rights Movement; both of which deny male/female compatibility, and both of which accept the terms laid down by the feminists as cultural norms. There is considerable homoeroticism latent in both movements, especially among the MHRM.

Both generally hold a form of gender supremacy, but it is the Game Philosophy which has the most pernicious effects on gender relations (the MHRM is essentially the mirror image of male feminism, which produces Capons as well, though of a different sort).

Not only does Game teach men how to disqualify themselves as suitable husbands/fathers, the male behavior it promotes reinforces the same negative stereotypes of men promoted by the Feminists. Why it is also dangerous is because, like feminism, it employs sexuality as a weapon.

Thus, the Gamecock, true to his namesake, treats gender relations as a war—not the healthy spirit of conquest which is part of the male nature—but indiscriminate conquest for its own sake. The Game blogs are replete with ‘relationship advice’ that sounds like psychological warfare. And to underscore the tendency, they despise all men outside of their movement as inferiors.  But stripped of their neologisms, pseudo-scientific rhetoric, and general pompousness, one sees a common thread running through all their writings: a genuine hatred for women in general. This, in spite of their obsession with sex, is deeply apparent. By extension, of course, the Gamecocks feel nothing but utter contempt for traditional masculinity. In fact, being referred to as a white knight or being accused of behaving with chivalry is considered an insult among their ranks—they laugh at men who respect or value women, because (to their minds), the female nature is inherently corrupt.

     By inherently corrupt, the Gamecocks do not mean the corrupted attitudes of modern women miseducated and disinformed by Feminist culture—what they mean, and explicitly state, is that to be born female is equivalent to being born with a corrupted nature. By their logic, it follows that men are completely justified in controlling that nature, either through force and fear because the corrupted feminine nature will not respond to goodness.

CSW [chaste single women] can avoid entanglements with the Gamecock by being, well CSW. The Gamecock’s only relationship goals are sex and control and he has no power over women who value themselves and their sexuality. Foiled in his attempts at manipulation, the Gamecock falls away and focuses his efforts on easier targets. Since he has no capacity to sustain a relationship, he typically has no desire to continue pursuit of anyone who doesn’t feed his narcissism.

The one type of Gamecock who does pose a danger to women is the one who wraps Game in a cloak of Christianity. The Churchian Gamer—and there are many of them—pose a threat because Christian women may be duped by the pretended Biblical sanction to the Gamecock message. Perverting such concepts as female submission, women as the weaker vessel, the husband as head of the household, &c the Churchian Gamecocks coax otherwise well-meaning women into the Game stratagems.

I use the term ‘Churchian’ because it must be understood that the religion of these men and their camarilla of disciples is Game and not Christianity. It actually resembles, in its teachings, contortions of Scripture most closely resembling the Gnostics. A good way for Christian women to avoid the Churchian Gamecock is to note the absence of a central Christian tenet: any discussion of Love. One can literally search in vain on Churchian Game blogs to find this word even mentioned. If a man talks endlessly about women’s Christian duties of things like submission and obedience, without mentioning either love or reciprocal male obligations, chances are he’s been influenced by Churchian Game.

By all means, stay CSW, if you deserve a rooster instead of a Gamecock or a Capon!
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Separately, Eric adds some history to it.

“I actually coined the ‘Gamecock’ term back in my Manosphere days, and opponents of Game still use it. It used to be that the Manosphere had an element of bloggers who were trying to fix the relations between men and women. There still are a few, but they are a minority.

“I thought the ‘Capon’ term fit for male feminists and their counterparts in the MHRM. The MHRM used to be A Voice For Men but they’ve largely veered into accepting feminism as the norm, but want feminist social/legal standards to equate to men: ‘Equal Injustice for All’ as their opponents aptly describe their position. It’s essentially male feminism that supposedly wants men to be equal feminists, unlike the traditional male feminists.

“Capons are more common in Europe, but it is a neutered rooster (it’s meat is considered a delicacy, they taste somewhat like pheasant LOL). So I thought it was an apt description of these types, since they behave like eunuchs, the same way that Gamers behave like gamecocks.”

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I welcome all updates to help understand if these Manosphere nuts are still around and promoting the further subjugation of females. I know the Game is still working as vague and unavailable, men acting hard to get.

And again, if he’s listening, thanks to Eric for his commendable work back in May 2015.

Masculine-style sexual freedom turns women into sexual victims. It kills the usefulness of their love to fulfill female hopes and dreams. By yielding sex so easily, a man has little or no need for her love to keep him in her life. IOW, a woman’s greatest ability, her love, is reduced to a weakness. It worsens as the tsunami spreads.

The tsunami is pursuit of sex for pleasure, a porn amplifier strongly backed by men and the porn industry. Soon, if not already, it spreads as girls and young women adopt the practice of watching porn. It’s now popular and becoming more so. Soon if not already, it will go viral via social media as have other movements that freed up sexual customs.

Addiction of men easily arises when one seeks more and more pleasure and finds it in a process where character is irrelevant, resistance is minimal or discouraged, and men dominate females to the maximum. Where women forget that respect is instrumental to men loving a woman.

Women lack an understanding of how the male mind works and the female mind is only slightly different. The male mind works like this.

• When his curiosity is stirred, a man’s imagination assesses whatever opportunity is available. Curiosity stirred by exposure of porn causes imagination to soar with prospects for viewing or participating.
• One can change one’s mind, or even develop new habits by repeatedly and emotionally imagining something particular. With repetitions over time, it programs the heart accordingly to become new habit.
• Repeated emotional viewing of porn thus transforms the male heart into habit of more viewing, and the pleasures of sex reprogram his heart accordingly. The result? Programmed porn exposure overwrites sexual urges for normal physical connection with women.
• Pleasure is never an end, if greater pleasure is available. Consequently, the more porn is watched, the more addictive it becomes as greater pleasure is sought with new and more advanced techniques and options next time.

No one wants to face this aspect of the male nature. Men respect only those who earn it, and yielding to his dominance prevents earning it. When a man pokes his penis first time anywhere in a woman, she no longer can earn his respect with chastity, which is the strongest respect a female can earn. A status change takes place, and she loses. He confirms his domination to self and she becomes dominated and inferior, just as soon as she yields first time.

Oh, men can disagree or claim exception to what I write and they can even fake respect, but it’s not the same kind or degree of earned respect upon which a man’s love can be built and sustained.

It could be an old school ballad, he says he respect you in the morning, but will he love you that night? Your great-grannies knew how essential a man’s respect is to a man’s love.

Each of us has known sex for pleasure, but this social movement is something else. Pursuing sex for pleasure generates greater need for new, more, and different pleasures out of sexual activity. It makes new pleasures the ultimate achievement for both sexes, and the promise of more and better makes it addictive. It applies in both the video and real world.

Women are capable, but is it in their interest to participate with men? Can women find fulfillment in chasing sex for more pleasure, whether video or real? Men would say yes, because they want it. They simply don’t care to understand what fulfillment is to a woman, because women no longer respect their own need for it. In fact, the pursuit of sex for pleasure takes women down a road directly opposite to fulfilling their female hopes and dreams of living life with one man.

If one looks closely at the sex for pleasure environment, one can foresee this condition. Over time, seeking sex for pleasure will have an opposite effect on women.  A woman’s happiness grows out of her gratitude for who she is and what she has. Try to imagine this. In a position designed to maximize pleasure for man but not her, can she find gratitude in herself with what she’s doing? Anal fisting quickly comes to mind.

What can she do about it? She can do plenty, if she wants a mate badly enough. If she wants to be a better person than addictive to sex. If she can change into a feminine creature put together well in heart and mind. IOW, if she can restore herself to living according to her female nature. After all, it’s the only way to get the better of men and earn the superior role due her as a couple.

As to the expansion efforts several of you suggested, my hands are tied by poor health and withdrawn PC guru. I’m working on it though.

Guy

In no way do I seek to belittle the pleasure in sex. I condemn the motivational force that sponsors and encourages people seeking sex for pleasure. It’s not the pleasure that damages relationships, it’s the pursuit that betrays the goodness in human character—of which women should have the greater concern about avoidance.

I dispute it. I seek to convince women that it’s egregiously bad news for their gender, female life, and especially to capture and keep a man permanently and fulfill the hopes and dreams inherent in the female nature, to which it’s contrary.

My objection is primarily based on this principle of human life. Sex for pleasure always demands more the next time; what do you think makes porn expand into ever increasing and ever enlarging versions of tools and new orifices to attack? How does anal fisting appeal to females without it being a follow on to whatever went before?

Hooked on pleasure, one can’t get enough and expects more the next time. New tools, new ways, new refreshments, extra sensations, or new sources to exceed what went before. Men lead and drive the bus, but dumb women provide the fuel. Men get what they want, and women don’t realize how their lives are being changed from what they want as they miss the more important things in life. When relationships are dominated by sex for pleasure, the woman can’t achieve what she expects of life.

Actually, the sexes are designed against sex for pleasure. If it were part of our design, our most primal motivational forces would not be so obvious in our behavior. IOW, sex for pleasure, as you will see, is the aberration and not the standard. At birth both sexes inherit other motivational forces that govern their sex lives.

Both sexes are born to get their way associating with others. Women are born to recognize very early in life they have a valuable birthright that men will honor when each woman respects herself deliberately, sufficiently, and defensively against first penile penetration. That birthright difference enables women to get their way with men who are stronger, dominant, and intent on conquest and quick departure. Discretion to participate sexually belongs to each woman, and she’s adequately prepared from early girlhood to capitalize on her own success.

Her side of the “when to yield” puzzle looks like this. Five natural motivational forces energize sex in the woman’s world:

• Born with a physiological urge to nurture, it triggers the urge to procreate.
• She has a psychological need to assuage the wants of herself or the needs of someone else, either of which can stimulate her to copulate.
• Possessing the primal need of self-importance, free will, and urge to get her way, it ignites ambitions to outdo and outshine other women as a candidate for mating. She empowers herself by negotiating sex such that she earns her own uniqueness and the respect of men or man; each man’s respect being essential for his love to arise.
• She comprehends the worth of sexually yielding to each man, especially the uniqueness and value of their first sexual encounter together. (When she finally yields to one man, he paid whatever price she demanded. He easily convinces himself that he ‘owns’ her, expects not to compete anymore with her, and that she will cooperate with him and his ambitions. It’s the male nature in action.)
• She needs intimacy, and it is a prime motivator for yielding sex. (Her nature craves intimacy; she can almost never get enough from her man. Especially when her spirits are down, which can be quite often. Intimate touching, fondling, caressing, and sweet words that enhance body closeness fuel a woman’s willingness or desire, which makes it easier to continue deeper into the process to please herself, her partner, or even make an unanticipated mistake.)

The wisdom inherent in the feminine nature empowers women to utilize sex for bonding, generating compatibility, and competing with other women. (Neither promiscuity nor orgasmic pleasure is natural to the female gender. Both arise from lessons learned in life about the urge to feel better or important about oneself, however momentary that may be.)

Those natural urges enable women to think they understand the male sex drive. Not so.

Primal motivational urges energize four versions of the male sex drive. These bring proactive sex into a man’s world:

• His interest in sex brings females onto the playing field. Without the urge to conquer, women can be ignored.
• He has a deep-rooted, unchangeable, and physiological urge to copulate with every female he finds attractive and maybe some beyond attractive. (Women witness but can’t comprehend the meaning behind this phenomenal and most primal expression of male sex drive.)
• He has an instinctive competitive urge to outdo and outshine other men. In response, he seeks to conquer women that other men can’t, enable bragging rights by doing so, and add boaster’s value to virginity.
• He possesses a steadfast ambition for frequent and convenient access to sex, and he’s willing to pay a high price for it, if and when the right woman coaxes, coaches, and loves him into paying her price.
• He has an instinctive craving to do something pleasurable with each erection, and instinct pushes him toward penile penetration of a vagina. (Penetration completes his conquest, goal achieved. Beyond first penetration, however, he’s just another sexual performer—good, poor, wasteful, selfish, indifferent.)

Orgasm is not a prime motivator of men. Pleasurable and rewarding, yes, but not a driving force until it’s about to arrive momentarily and as expected.

Those primal sex urges combine to make men compete with other males for females and compete with females for conquest—but for little else afterward. After conquest, he’s beat out other men, he paid her price, and he expects cooperation from the woman he ‘owns’. He refuses to compete further with her. Men reliably find a way out or avoid competing with a conquered woman. Even if she’s a keeper and they marry, if he has to compete with her, she loses much of her likeability.

Why? Conquest changes their relationship dramatically. He used his persuasive interest achieving conquest, in ‘buying her’. IOW, he paid whatever price she demanded. Job’s done; she’s his. Afterward she belongs to him, and he expects cooperation. He’s now free to pursue others. He may lose significant arguments to her. So why take the risk of her winning and his losing the upper hand won with conquest? Men are not dumb; they only seem to be that way because women don’t understand how men are born to be different.

Even though born to be compatible as mates, the sexes differ greatly on matters of purpose, love, and sex. Society and life in it are as peaceful and satisfying as both sexes live according to their nature, the way they are born. Things start to fall apart, when the sexes begin for whatever reason to act like the opposite sex and thus betray their respective nature.

In which case, women lose dominance of cultural values, standards, and expectations. Men run society according to male dominated and female-unfriendly values, standards, and expectations. Neither sex appreciates or respects the other very much, blame spurs anger, and children self-develop to tunes played on the quarrelsome tongues of disrespectful parents, teachers, and adults.

Those primal sex urges combine to make males compete with males for females and compete with females for conquest but for little else afterward. Sex for pleasure as a motivational force curtails and probably ends the female friendliness of sexual relations according to their respective natures.

The following is from a William Egmont via jesseweb@gmail.com. So, by the nature of the comments, I presume a man did not write what follows dated way back in December 2007. I respond in CAPS, although I’m sure it will never be seen by the originator.

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“Competitiveness hurts relationships, yes; [BUT ONLY INSIDE MARRIAGE. BEFORE THAT COMPETITION ENABLES WOMEN TO GET THEIR WAY IN THE SHAPING OF PREMARITAL RELATIONSHIPS.] …but in an equal society, how can women be solely to blame? [NO SUCH THING AS AN EQUAL SOCIETY OR EQUAL RELATIONSHIP. AIMING FOR IT PRODUCES ITS OPPOSITE. MOREOVER, MEN HAVE NO RELATIONSHIP SKILLS OR TALENTS BUT WOMEN POSSESS IT AT THE EXPERTISE LEVEL FOR THE BUILDING AND MAINTAINING OF RELATIONSHIPS. IF SHE’S THE ONLY ONE ABLE, THEN IN THEORY, BUT FAR FROM PRACTICAL, SHE’S RESPONSIBLE WHEN A RELATIONSHIP DOESN’T WORK.]

“Yes, there is more conflict when two partners are equal, for now, unlike before, they strive for the same goals. [CAN YOU EVER BE SURE OF SAME GOALS?] But, as most of society has come to accept, demands for equality are not unreasonable, unprecedented, or unmerited; they are just, fair, and right. [AS YOU POINT OUT, “DEMANDS FOR EQUALITY” FIT AND HELP DEVELOP THE BATTLE SCENES WE SEE TODAY. JUST THE DEMAND, BUT NO EQUALITY. THE INSTANT AN EQUAL CONDITION IS ACHIEVED, SOMEONE POINTS OUT AN INEQUALITY ABOUT IT. THE NATURE OF EVERYONE BORN TO GET THEIR WAY SPRINGS THE TRAP.]

“Therefore, it is not only the woman’s responsibility to change; it is the man’s as well. [THAT IS FEMINIST-THINK.] The man must adapt to these changes, [WHY MUST MEN BETRAY THEIR OWN NATURE AGAINST CHANGING THEMSELVES, JUST BECAUSE WOMEN SAY SO?] to learn to accept and adjust to the competition, the “adverse factors.” Equality should not mean exclusively that women become like men; it demands also that men become like women, [THAT FRUITLESS FEMINIST DEMAND LEADS THE WAY TO MAKING ENEMIES OF MEN AND WOMEN.] in ways that will make relationships work again. [FALSE HOPE.]

“This isn’t good news for many men, necessarily; but for a healthy relationship to thrive while both parties are equal, concessions and changes must happen on both sides. These are, after all, relationships we’re talking about, with two equal beings; and, as in other aspects of relationships, cooperation is teamwork is essential.” [THOSE ARE FEMINIST POLITICAL RAMBLINGS THAT IGNORE THE INBORN NATURE OF BOTH MEN AND WOMEN. FEMINISTS AND FOLLOWERS BETRAY THEIR NATURE IN MYRIAD WAYS TO OPENLY ACT LIKE MEN OR TO CAPTURE AND HOLD A MAN. MEN ARE NOT SO EASILY SEDUCED TO BETRAY THEIR NATURE.]

Most of the snowflake personality can be blamed on the lack of any sense of responsibility to other people. Judith Rich Harris claims in “The Nurture Assumption” that children develop their personalities more in connection with peers than parents. Snowflakes have a peer environment that includes social media associates, and so their personality development automatically distorts contrary to mature adult values, standards, and expectations.

Snowflakes have this in common. They don’t particularly like how they fit in the world in spite of faux bravado to the contrary. They lack a sense of responsibility to others and even to themselves. Both of those irritating shortcomings are correctable between the toddler years and puberty. It’s a function of parental leadership in childhood.

Primarily, parents of snowflakes lack that leadership ability. They don’t know what to do or how to do it. They mistakenly take the easy way out and do what makes the parents feel good about themselves under the guise of making their offspring feel good. Thus, kids grow up in a world of constant entertainment.

Snowflakes are absent the sequential upbringing that teaches them to be responsible adults; which is a function of self-discipline; which is a function of self-development; which is a function of responsibilities assigned and developed into habit in childhood; which is a function of chores, special tasks, and similar responsibilities up to which a child learns to achieve, master by themselves, and thereby self-develop on their own; and which forms their adult maturity, unlike snowflakes, with a strong sense of self-discipline.

Girls brought up to self-develop that way also earn self-respect that enables them to stand up and compete against the dominance of boys and men. Boys brought up the same way learn self-love that enables them to respect girls and later love a woman.

The blog is all about that, but today I want to bore down to the very foundation upon which couples find success or not.

Feminists claim the only true gender differences are the reproductive systems. They claim everything else is socialized into both sexes. I disagree with significant fervor and evidence. Feminists disregard differences for political purposes.

I favor the legal, political, and economic advancements of women. I criticize the social and domestic side-effects of Feminism as the major cause of relationship uncertainty, instability, and misery. Feminist values have no promotional or holding power in a relationship, in fact, quite the opposite.

Her Primal Need. A woman instinctively needs a brighter future for her and her children. Unless very immature, she seeks security of life, dependable relationships, and family cohesiveness. She seeks family, economic, and social stability. She seeks safety of health, life, and family. To fulfill such overlapping and intermingled needs, she has two options: give of herself to a helpmate, or do it alone, perhaps desperate, and usually lonesome sooner or later. She is made to care for others, and the absence of finding someone can be sufficient to prevent her finding happiness.

His Primal Need. Men have one overwhelming need that makes everything else minor, regardless of how they seem to act even to the contrary. A man absolutely needs only a place to flop, eat, throw his things, hopefully do a little R&R, and prepare for his ’battles’ tomorrow. A hut will do, but if a woman provides such a place for him, he judges her nesting and castle building by how it supports his work, outside competitive interests, and NOT how she claims to love him.

Her Primal Drive. Women are driven to nest, nurture, and nestle with loved ones. Their instinctive drive bonds society together into family units. What men hear and learn inside the home shape their thinking for how to compete as they make the outside world more family friendly and thus civilized.

His Primal Drive. Men are driven to compete against Nature when it obstructs their progress, compete with other men, and shape and control human events.

Both sexes were put on earth to live as couples. However, both have to find compatibility, and women have the relationship expertise to promote it. The naturalness of it follows.

Her drive to nest, nurture, and nestle with loved ones matches well with his need for a place to flop and prepare for tomorrow’s battles. It’s a fair swap.

Her need for a brighter future matches easily with his drive to win his way outside the home. He can do for her what she can’t do for herself. It’s a fair swap. As the natural consequence of their relationship expertise, wives shape husbands’ thinking inside the home such that husbands learn to make the outside world more family friendly and civilized for both sexes.

The sexes are designed that way to find the compatibility needed to live successfully as couples.

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Natural Law: Other than for sex, a man only pays extra attention and ardent pursuit to a woman who respects herself so much she will not uncross her legs first time for him, until, that is, she gets all of her requirements met and him obligated deeply to her.

Girls and women commit social suicide in growing numbers. Sworn or propagandized into making men pay for past offenses or to equalize the sexes, women seek reparations. They change themselves into such unattractive creatures that men kiss them off as worthless. Women do it with a mixture of bad relationship practices that convince men: adequate for conquest only.

We all follow our beliefs more than momentary thoughts. What follows below represents what too many women believe and are guided accordingly by their hearts distorted by feminism and adopted into interpersonal relationships.

These are some of the embittered suicide pills that women either swallow or practice and presume to be okay. Nay, even the right thing for them to do, or so they believe.

1. She doesn’t listen to men about what makes men tick. She relies on what other women think and feminists distort for political purpose.
2. She chatters endlessly about herself, which blocks a man from selling himself to her as a potential pursuer. Feminist-think endorses full disclosure, which is contrary to building successful relationships.
3. She dresses like a fugitive from garage sales, but expects men to be interested in her.
4. She refuses to listen to a man talking about himself; she would rather talk about herself—and she does.
5. She wears long stringy hair far too late in life; it’s low maintenance and, anyway, men or her man told her twenty years ago they liked it. Actually, it clouds her personality with the message that she’s lost in the past, just too old for a budding relationship.
6. She spotlights her appearance with low maintenance, comfort over grooming, and disregard for how men may view her. IOW, no way will she pay a price to satisfy men with her appearance, which is strong poison in her suicide ditty-bag of pills.
7. She refuses to compete with other gals for best appearance, strongest attractiveness. Even though men judge gals that way. It causes many to be hit on for sex by guys they don’t want.
8. She believes whatever men can do, she can too. Whatever they deserve, she deserves. And, unfortunately, she tries to prove it everyday to herself, if not others.
9. She bitches about male dominance and still wants to fight it. She gives up her skill and talent to govern relationships successfully, and so she’s not able to build and keep a relationship for very long.
10. She yields first sex together early in dating and expects him to bond with her as she does with him. Just prior to conquest, he expects that she’s keeper, booty, or disposable. But women don’t know that ahead of time. The shorter the time before conquest, the more likely she’s disposable rather than keeper.
11. She acts as the seller to convince a man to be her boyfriend or fiancé. It shuts down his interest in selling her on himself and he can sooner get into her pants. Almost guaranteed to become a dumpee as soon as she yields sex first time.
12. She gets her worldly info from TV, Internet, and pop culture and accepts it as real life. Then she takes up social media habits that turn her personality so self-centered that it distorts her public personality.
13. She portrays herself as sex object and criticizes men of no interest for hitting on her. It confirms to her that men are no good.
14. She fails to understand that men believe what they figure out about a woman much more that what she tells them.
15. She mistakenly thinks that full discovery is the way to open a relationship. In fact, the opposite works best. He describes who and what he is and she just listens, which is the start up of her earning a man’s respect that is the foundation of his love that may develop later.
16. She eats like a truck driver, lives on huge high caffeine sodas, and sports a pot belly like men. She expects her excess weight will be forgiven by Mr. Next Guy and thus prove that she’s right to forgive herself. It’s a laughable equation that works so seldom, and so she ends up disliking herself every day for life.
17. She arises each morning with a huge dislike of herself. She feels good until she begins to think what the day will bring and dislike of self swallows the outgoing side of her personality.
18. She pays any price to claim a boyfriend as hers, even to his mistreating her mentally or physically.
19. She fails to capitalize on female strengths, such as femininity, mystery, modesty, vanity, and monogamous spirit.
20. She refuses to recognize this trait in the male nature: A man accepts competition with a woman prior to conquest. He refuses to compete with a woman he has conquered, and so he expects only her cooperation afterward.
21. She copies masculine habits, which destroys femininity, and which cancels most female qualities that men admire and see as virtues; those that accumulate for her to make her a virtuous woman like a man hopes to marry.
22. She accepts anger, lets bitterness develop, and otherwise makes herself an unattractive personality that even smiles can’t erase.
23. She acts as the seller with man as the buyer, which reverses the natural roles that worked for centuries. If he’s not earning her as the seller, she’s in for a short relationship, probably just conquest.
24. She floats an attitude that men are no good, and so why should she do anything special? Men always get the easy way out, why shouldn’t she?
25. She wants more control, and so she dresses down to keep uninteresting men from hitting on her.
26. She falsely believes that men and women are more alike than different in their natures, in their personal makeup, behavior, motivation, and interaction with the opposite sex.
27. She dislikes herself so intensely that she seeks to pull those around her down to her level, and men pull the easiest because she doesn’t understand the male nature.

A lot of overlap exists in that list, but you get the idea. Men are no better than women make them, and the social suicide above makes worse whatever quality of men women face today.

That’s a lengthy menu of female poisons being injected into the social sphere. Not all women are guilty. Those prone to doing so have one thing in common. They don’t like themselves as a female, as girl or woman. They inflate their egos and help ensure their sanity by practicing the poisonous thoughts listed above.

They dislike themselves as the result of upbringing in families, predominantly those that believe feminist thought and propaganda that men are the enemies of women.

Regardless of age, every male and female that join up as a couple meet at this street corner of life. Two conquerors face off. He seeks to conquer her for sex without obligation, although elder men are not so picky. His nature drives him.

She seeks to conquer him for marriage without yielding sex until he honors her directly by obligating himself to her and her alone. Her instinct, intuition, and lessons learned in life guide her. She intends to convert what she has in assets of every kind into satisfying her wants, needs, hopes, and dreams. She is driven to get more out of life than just having sex with a man and raising their offspring. It too easily turns out to be by herself, if she can’t find a way to convince her impregnating seed spreader to honor her wishes.

They battle unevenly as they are very unlike each other. First, they are born much different than just genitalia. Second, the battle is between his instinct from birth versus her intuition from lessons learned in childhood. Third, he is motivated by his habits (subconscious mind) to have sex with her and by his thinking (conscious mind) to overcome whatever resistance he encounters. Fourth, she is motivated by her habits of action to proceed safely and not dim her future but to use her thinking mind to screen for a mate.

Conflicted with infatuation or romantic love, she is caught between caution and excitement and guided by both habits and her thinking mind. He is usually caught between why his tactics don’t work, and what does he try next to get her to yield? His urge to conquer is subconscious, habitual, and ever present, and men learn in life that indirectness works best with discriminating women.

Both sexes are born with strong motivations to get their way associating with someone else. Everybody learns in life how to manage their self-interest to get their own way, and it comes up at the next street corner of life. That’s where a gal can find the rationale to either yield or refuse to be conquered.

Let us say the man yields first but ever so slowly. He relents, keeps trying to get her in bed, learns he can’t do without her, proposes and they marry. It happens within the following more complicated process.

His conquering urge originates deep in his motivational nature. His intentions are intense, and if she is attractive and appealing enough to him, he continues to pursue even as she refuses to yield sex for first time together. He continues to pursue even as conquest appears fruitless. As fruitless pursuit lengthens, he convinces himself that he must have her at any price, even without first sex together. Failing to conquer for sex, he adopts the strategy that he must ‘own’ her, one of his possessions that he can’t do without.

His determination grows to own her, and her virtues grow in his mind and heart. It confirms in her mind that he is earning her, which is essential to fulfilling her female hopes and dreams. Conditions are ripe for his proposal of marriage; he just can’t live much longer without owning her as his own. He got there by his fruitless persistence to get his way, while she used her determination to get her way with him. Her governing ability ruled over his dominance and physical potential.

Let us say the woman yields first. She relents and accepts his invitation to bed. She learns she can’t do without him and hopes his proposal will follow. But they don’t marry. It most likely happens within the following process.

She relents, can’t refuse his love and charm any longer. She wants so badly to please him that her heart is about to burst with love. So, she yields their first time sex together.

In modern times it is by far the most popular outcome. She is about to find out: 1) Conquest changes a man as the result of his inborn nature. 2) She doesn’t change at first but she’s surprised; he knew before conquest if she would be a keeper, booty, or disposable. 3) Sex does not bond a man, which is another sex difference with huge impact on relationships. 4) He won the competition with her, which also freed him to conquer someone else. It’s predominantly his nature making her the victim, the one who lost her future just by yielding prematurely.

Her conquering urge that marriage comes before sex does not emanate from her primal nature inherited at birth. She did, however, inherit at birth the expectation that the raising of her children will need the assistance of someone else, mostly a physically stronger male whom she can condition to provide, protect, and stay with her to meet her need and brighten her future.

Marriage offers insurance for relationship longevity. So, she learned to conquer for marriage while growing up; it is intuitive from parental, cultural, religious, and other lessons learned in girlhood. She also learned to sense opportunity and leverage her determination to defer conquest until marriage, and thus she gets her way and satisfies her primal need for a brighter future. He wins frequent and convenient access to sex with her.

The relationship changes after conquest, seemingly for the good, but very often for something less if he wins. Being a monumental event, neither is the same couple after conquest. He changes too much, and she has to follow suit to keep from losing him. He changes more to her advantage, when she wins marriage before conquest.

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Natural Law: When girls chase boys, plenty of sex and male dominance are the result. When boys have to chase girls without winning sexual favors, stable and dependable masculine character develops out of fruitless boyish efforts to act like a man.

Females learn this the hard way if at all. Sex for pleasure, aka the man’s game, is mutually exclusive with successful married life, aka the woman’s game. Why? Because wives can’t keep husbands home, cheaters are not trustworthy in other matters, and marriages fall apart from lack of mutual likeability.

Elena expressed her frustration this way, “…everything with men is about sex! Everyday I can feel in my heart and head less and less attraction to men knowing all I know now (and I am 22 years old).” You’re right about men, darling, but you’re moving in the wrong direction, and I hope to show you why.

You need to learn more about both sexes and their differences. You are designed and particularly endowed with the skill and talent to find and keep for life your choice of a man. You can find the what, why, and how details described in many different ways throughout this blog. But the angelic essential that makes and holds a couple together comes from the following.

No man is interested, much less motivated, to produce what you expect out of life. Until, that is, you coach, train, teach, motivate, and otherwise convince him you are the best woman for him.

To hold his interest long enough to discover who and what you are and can be in his life, only one thing works. Keep your legs crossed for so long that he discovers not only your virtues, but his respect grows out of your insistence on protecting your sexual assets, and his imagining that all men find you the same.

The longer you refuse to yield, the more of his respect you earn, and a man’s love is founded on respect for a woman. The greater his respect, the more likely he stays with you. The magnetic attractions of female love should be matched by the respect of a man for one woman, or they likely fail as a couple.

Nothing else holds a man’s attention long enough than a female’s refusal to be conquered. Sometimes, however, a man quits chasing early, which in itself is a sign that he was after sex more than her, which means he already had her aimed for dumping soon after their first sex together.

We are put on earth to live as couples. Only women can produce success living together, and your most critical efforts take place before marriage. Marriage isn’t the man’s game, until you teach one man that your way is the best way for both.

After marriage, women are expected to balance the books. You have to acknowledge that he earned frequent and convenient access and is entitled to marital sex at his bidding. He earned it by letting you have your way before marriage.

A personal story. Grace and I were broke for the first 25 of our 59 years. I finally gained control of our spending, and we were never broke after that.

It’s much the same with women. Control your sexual assets such that men are unable to conquer you for first sex together, and you will not be without men chasing you. Admittedly today, men may not chase very long, but it misleads women. If you’re attractive enough in all situations and refuse to yield, you will be chased. Men can’t stand to pass up an opportunity to conquer what appeals to their eyes; it’s up to you to dissuade them from immediate access to your sexual assets.

Except for convenience, men don’t chase women with whom they’ve had sex, only the gals who refuse it the first time. And men more earnestly chase the ones who made other men fail at conquest. Every man competes to beat out buds and other men, and conquest is the most eagerly sought way of earning bragging rights. It’s the male nature at work.

Unfortunately, you gals don’t get to make your own virtues. You only get to shape the opinion of men that you are what each man wants to marry, a virtuous woman, which is each man’s collective measure of whatever he expects out of his mate. IOW, men don’t need marriage until one woman convinces one man indirectly that he can’t live without her. Thus, men shop around for the accumulation of virtues that mean enough to him, and which meet minimum requirement for him to marry.

By definition, a virtue is a quality of yours that one man admires. Who knows what it is? Until one man makes the call for himself, that is, and probably doesn’t reveal it. It’s part of your collection of qualities that make you stand out as different and, hence, particularly attractive to him. Your virtues roll up into your likeability, which unfortunately for female-think falls far short of love as females wish it.

You have virtues that he doesn’t see all that clearly in others. Virtues make you different from other gals; they are how his eyes see and his judgments make you more worthy of attention and desire to bed you first time. Thus, God and Nature puts you in competition with other gals, whether you like it or not.

Your outer features he may admire such as hair, eyes, mouth, facial expressions, figure, legs, classy dresser, personality that appeals to him, or whatever. Men judge women with their eyes first, and your attractiveness is vital. Dress comfortably and a man sees little or nothing to admire. Dress to the nines and you hold his attention while he scans for virtues.

Over time, he comes to admire your inner qualities such as character strong enough to stand up for yourself, ability to earn his respect, smiling countenance, personal likeability, friendly manner, willingness to listen to him, willingness to trust him, silence about who and what you are, use of modesty to protect yourself, unwillingness to give away your most valuable sexual assets, ability to love without giving away the store, ability to use vanity inoffensively to make yourself look better than others expect, potential to be a wife/mother/friend, virginity or nearness to it, and many other qualities worthy of his admiration.

Closing the gap to marriage is far more than just a man’s appreciation of your virtues. But that’s another story for another time.

All three articles are at the same website, but the following impressed me so much. (I think each requires Ctrl-click.)

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https://damesthatknow.com/2018/01/30/a-tough-love-letter-to-my-19-year-old-self/

https://damesthatknow.com/2016/03/30/they-want-you-when-they-cant-have-you/

https://damesthatknow.com/2016/09/06/21-complaints-millennial-women-have-about-men-relationships/

Even though love of females arises only out of masculine respect, feminist advocates teach that personal independence and sexual freedom are so important that men’s opinions should be disregarded, which equates respectively to less objective discussion between the sexes, less and less respect, and less and less masculine love of women. Those behaviors are all connected.

If women don’t ration unmarried sex to get their way, they are not able to fulfill female hopes and dreams. Female insistence on independence and sexual freedom as witnessed in America today is mutually exclusive with men helping fulfill female hopes and dreams. Men may marry, but it’s a long way from women getting what they want out of life. The results are all relative and mostly according to how women act.

The availability of plenty unmarried sex appeals to the raw nature of hunter-conquerors, attracts masculine eyes, diverts manly ambitions, stalls and sours the development of devotion to one woman, and discourages men from helping one woman get what she’s after. The proof lies with the multitude of single moms, empty ring fingers, and unattached women in middle and older ages.

The fallout of masculine-style sexual freedom for females results in the darkest exploitation of females of all ages. They are seduced away from the art of developing compatible togetherness, lasting relationships, and cultivating the teamwork required to harmonize family life. They blame men, which drives men to reject the guilt messages and argue back or retaliate with every intention of winning.

The end result is that unmarried men don’t respect women generally, don’t learn how to exploit the exploitable, and strongly disfavor marriage and permanent relationships. They have been taught by women that devotion to one woman is not needed, morality is not important, sex is paramount, thoughts of marriage are foolish, and divorce means financial strangulation.

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EDITOR’S NOTE. I suggest readers get more involved discussing men and women with men. Forget the Venus and Mars, pop culture, and media stuff. Bury your head directly in questioning someone of the opposite sex. More directness and even cover intimate subjects, but not whether she should or shouldn’t do it first time. Get to know men more deeply about other than sex. Most of all learn how to listen without judgment, argument, or defending females. Learn to accept someone else for who they really are and try to earn mutual respect.

I know, I know! You gals can’t talk about intimate subjects with men not your own; do it anyway, it can be therapeutic if you ease into it with your boundaries well marked out and followed. Present conditions cry for relief, and women won’t change until they find out what the male nature really looks like in a person.