
I think it’s fair to say that most of us live in the future. Some of us harp on the past. It’s rare to find someone who can very enthusiastically and thoughtfully remain in the present moment. Curiously, many of us work hard to enjoy the future: we plan vacations; we buy tickets to concerts; we plan parties in an effort to create moments of joy weeks, months, even years down the line.
But what about today? Like, now. Aujourd’hui, to get a little fancy. I don’t enjoy wishing away my time, or spending it all waiting for something noteworthy to happen. Lately I’ve been experimenting with ways to make my perception of time slow down, to help experiences soak in deeper than they might when I only flit about on the surface of life, too busy to notice or care. Rather than waiting for an experience, why not cultivate them?
I did my best to think of ways to make today special that didn’t require spending money, or access to exclusively urban resources, though I wanted to allow for a few thoughtful indulgences. Here’s what I came up with:
Cuddle with your fur baby.
This sounds simple and hokey, but you’d be surprised. My dog is pretty spry for her age; however, she’s getting old. I get a little sentimental around her sometimes. She has such personality and presence. The other night, while closing my eyes to fall asleep, I decided to reverse the position of my pillow. My pooch always sleeps at the foot of my bed, spread out like Cleopatra, taking up as much space as possible. She’s a diva, for sure. At the last minute, I joined her at the foot of the bed and slept next to her floppy ears and twitchy paws. Throughout the night, she’d periodically let out an amusing little snort, or a wistful sigh. There is something extremely therapeutic and life affirming about listening to the steady breath of one’s fur baby.
Relax near a body of water.
Bring a book, sit quietly, or simply dangle your feet. It could be a pool, a lake, or a river; if you’re lucky, it might be the ocean. Heck, if I lived near the ocean, I’d be happier than a pig in slop. Still, don’t discount the healing properties of a local river. The sound of gently rushing water is heaven after a long day at the office. Some parks have shallow wading pools for children, and even a sprinkler could work in a pinch. We work with what we’ve got and where we live.
Give everyone you love more hugs.
Sometimes, I’ll get to the end of my day and realize I’ve forgotten to do some integral things: oddly, drink water; on occasion, I’ve forgotten to eat entire meals; and, I’ve barely hugged the people I care about. It is alarmingly easy to fall into autopilot mode. We wake up, go to work, commute, and juggle our responsibilities. Please, make some time for the people in your life! Hug your ma, your pa, your granny, significant other… you know where I’m going with this. And while you’re at it, say something nice, too.
Buy yourself a bouquet of flowers for no reason.
Okay, so, some cash might be required in this instance. (But, hey, if you have a garden, or if your neighbourhood runneth over with rogue lilacs or apple blossoms, snip a few and put them in a jar.) There is something really special about a fresh bunch of colourful flowers. It’s a treat. Celebrate something. Get some roses, or tulips, or a potted azalea. Whatever you can afford, whatever colour you feel would brighten up your space and your heart. (And you know what? If the craft store is having a sale on fabric flowers, that might work, too. At least they won’t wilt.)
Have a different, unusual, or luxurious meal.
We’re all on a budget, of course, but it can be fun to try something different when resources allow. The idea here is to get out of your culinary routine. Think outside the box. Explore aisles of the grocery store you never go. If you always make pasta, how about some fresh fish? If you always eat healthy, how about something decadent? Or, if you never bake, try making some cupcakes from scratch for dessert. Shake it up in some way. Order pizza, a Greek platter, or vegan burritos. Something different, out of the ordinary.
See a happy movie.
Earlier this month, I took a Tuesday off and saw Yesterday with my mother. It was so much fun! The music was amazing, the story was sweet, and the message was on the money. Yesterday put a smile on my face for two hours and, impressively, put me in a good mood for the rest of the week. I’m not even a super fan of The Beatles, but the songs were a treasure trove of melodies and meditations. And, at the beginning of the summer, I also went to see the new Aladdin and I nearly swooned with nostalgia. Will Smith really pulled it off! Robin Williams would’ve been proud.
Dine alfresco.
This works if you’re a homeowner or an apartment dweller. If you don’t have a balcony, pack a picnic and stroll over to the nearest green space. Eating outside is a really fun way to break up the monotony of routine, especially if you work in an office indoors. It’s liberating to kick off your shoes and socks, roll up your sleeves, and enjoy a meal in nature.
Take a nap.
Don’t laugh or roll your eyes. Sleep is special. Sleep is powerful. We make poor life decisions when we’re tired. We go into autopilot mode when we’re tired. However, when I wake up from an afternoon nap, my brain feels recharged and my observational prowess improves by at least fifty percent. I’m more alert and aware. If you are exhausted and you have the flexibility in your schedule or family life, I highly recommend a quick 30-60 minute snooze.
Take the day off.
I write this fully aware that everyone has different responsibilities, jobs, and benefits. We can’t all take a day off, or afford a day off, in which case think of this concept from a philosophical perspective. For example, if you work a full 40 hours throughout the week, take Saturday “off.” Don’t run errands or clean the house. Spend the day completely goofing off. Read or watch movies or go outside for a walk. Eat cereal or pancakes for dinner. Let your routine go off the rails. For just a day, allow your to-do list to collect dust. Give yourself permission to be playful and lazy. If you are able to take a day off in the middle of the week, that’s great, too.
Laugh.
I’m currently reading Goldie Hawn’s autobiography, A Lotus Grows in the Mud, and she is a huge believer in the power of laughter – obviously. Pairing that with what I learned from Kate Hudson’s Pretty Fun, I am totally convinced that both mother and daughter are capable of making just about any situation enjoyable. Over the last few weeks, I’ve made a conscious effort to loosen up and joke more, find the joys in everyday life. Opportunities for delight are everywhere. Sometimes, I’m just not looking, or I’m not paying attention. Laughter is free, people. Take advantage.