I love talking to people who challenge me and make me think…shake things up a bit! The closer to polar opposites, the more intriguing. Comfortable is boring. I’m all about stretching and growing. I went through 15 years of what I would describe as stagnation and loss of self. Others would call it a bad marriage. I started this journey of self-discovery in 2005, when I left my marriage. It has shaped up to be the journey of a lifetime.

When I first started this blog I had very little to write in the “About Me” section. I was separated and longing to be divorced. I was at the close of a tremendously painful chapter in my life that started long before the marriage, before I even met him, in fact. I’d been healing from a lot of things. That process had me rethinking everything: my faith, relationships, love, sex, sexuality, career, hope, family, politics, dreams, the future. It was an exciting place to be.

Well, I’m divorced now. That stagnant life of loss and pain is behind me. In three years I have managed to remember my worth, my passion and my love for life. I have come into myself and it’s the most exciting of all places to be.

Please feel free to read my archives and watch the transformation. Sometimes even I am amazed by how broken I was and how far I have come.

At one point, I had neatly compartmentalized my online Self into 3 blogs: this one, Fine Tuning and Unpacking Faith.  I may occasionally go back to Unpacking Faith as it developed a readership of its own in the past.  For the most part, though, I have just decided to re-unite all parts of myself: personal, business, fitness, spiritual, artistic, whatever  here on On Second Thought….

Cheers and Welcome!