Names4things is my profane take on the world, from Harlem, in New York City. If you think some words are dirty or exhortations offend you, please leave quickly, in an orderly fashion. The n-word? if you use it, and you shouldn’t? Fuck you.
I am a woman, an orphan, an iconoclast, an insomniac, a mother, a wife, black identified, plur-racial, a twin, a friend of very few, an awkward customer, and a bibliophile. I have taught in schools, prisons, community centers, and an insane asylum in Costa Rica. My words and photographs have been published on every continent except Antartica (I think), and my paintings have been exhibited and bought. I have no idea why I have been in Marquis’ Who’s Who of the World, America, and American Women, but I have, and several times. I used to be very beautiful, and am not ugly now. I am taller than most men and women (globally), and all but a few children in the world. I have been to about a dozen countries, and lived outside of America for about three years. I have climbed several mountains. I love to swim in oceans and lakes. Okay, a nice pooI, too. I have nearly died many times. But I didn’t! Ha! I have also seen some people die horribly. Fuck. I weighed less than a five pound bag of sugar when I was born, but was not sweet. I am not wrinkled, and I am not young. I am clairvoyant. I am full of it, but I am also fed up. Serenity comes to me often and sought. I would prefer a death that did not involve foul smells. I could not have done much more, but I think I could have. I make do-overs on this blog, in that I go back and edit mistakes. It’s not like I’m cutting down trees to do so, and until I feel like what I write here is written in stone, I shall continue. Or not. That is all. For now.
I love good movies. I’ll think about that for a minute and get back to you. Off the top: Sexy Beast, The Field, Claudine, Apocalypse Now Redux, It’s A Wonderful life, Poto and Cabengo, Routine Pleasures, Notes On A Scandal, House of Sand and Fog, and Angels In America. I’ll think of some more. But that’s maybe enough.
I also like television. But that’s for later. Lots of things are for later. Ha!
You can email me at names4things at gmail dot com if you must.
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as I have said before, you have had an amazing life. You should write a book, seriously. And this “friend of very few” business…I think I am one of the few…cool.
Thanks for checking in on the story each day. Though I am writing this to get the book out of my head and get me out of my office, the fact that people from the neighborhood are reading it makes me feel like I am writing an open letter.
Much thanks.
I too am writing to strengthen my chops for a long form piece. Your work is not only easy to read, its insightful and unpredictable. Keep it up, Stal! The Harlem writing community is something we should both be proud to belong to…
Original Author of “Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man” Says Steve Harvey is using her original title and theme to send a distorted message of empowerment to women.
Chicago, Ill. April 5, 2009 — Author Sharon P. Carson of Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, says the Steve Harvey’s book of the same name is a misrepresented take on her original work. Carson, who is pursuing her rights under unfair competition laws, secured a copyright for the title in 2004, and then established https://www.actlikealadythinklikeaman.com.
Harvey’s book, published in January of this year, copies the title and theme of her work, says Carson, and takes some of her authentic thoughts and conclusions and contorts them into a detrimental message for women. Carson says his approach is a distorted view of her original vision.
Carson says her self-published book was written, “To encourage women to accept and appreciate who they are both inside and out and to respect themselves and demand respect from their male counter part.” She also felt women need to be as tough minded as men are in relationships, which is how she created the title, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man.
Harvey has stated the title for his book came through an editor, but originally contained the word “girl” instead of “lady,” a substitution for which he takes credit.
An excerpt from Carson’s book discusses the unnecessary concept of women changing themselves physically for their partner: “Why should women become someone they hate in order to please someone they think they love? What if the relationship ends, will they have to change again to please the next man?”
An excerpt from Harvey’s book, on p. 207, mirrors Carson’s point: “But if you’re telling your man you want a nose job and he sees nothing wrong with the nose you already have then maybe you ought to think about leaving your nose alone. Why run the risk of something going wrong when your man is already happy with the way you look? Why lose the extra weight if your man is happy with you the way you are?”
In addition to reworking her original ideas, Carson objects to the anti-empowerment message of Harvey’s take on a successful woman, per p. 182: “If you’ve got your own money, your own car, your own house, a Brinks alarm system, a pistol and a guard dog and your practically shouting from the roof that you don’t need a man to provide for you or protect you, then we will see no need to keep coming around.”
Carson asks, “How does this message empower us as women? Should we prepare for success so that we can provide and protect ourselves or should we forgo that and wait for a man come along and do it for us?”
While Carson is looking into protecting her own rights as an author, she also is concerned about getting her message out there—that women are their own authority, they are complete with, or without, a man.
Fans of Carson’s book frequently react with praise and the desire to pass on the book’s message. One reader writes, “You were right ON point w/this book! I learned these things the hard way, but I am gonna give a copy to my daughters to read! And your insights really helped me build more effectively with my son! Thank you!”
For more information about Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, contact Sharon Carson or visit https://www.actlikealadythinklikeaman.com.
About Sharon P. Carson
Sharon P. Carson is a gifted author and poet, and has published four books in her lifetime, including the poetic volume Not By Bread Alone and Go Tell The Children. Carson, a State Certified Real Estate Appraiser, is the mother of two children, and lives in Chicago, Ill. With her husband of 41 years.
Contact:
Sharon P. Carson
773-568-2274
sharonpcarson@gmail.com
https://www.actlikealadythinklikeaman.com