This is a post I write from my heart. And I do hope my children take this advice and suck it into their systems like a sponge sucks water.
Brace yourselves, here goes, in first person narrative:
- We co-inhibit this world with trillions of other life forms, inclusive of billions of homosapiens. If I were to think that everyone should have my values and thought process, I’d be in for disappointment.It would be expecting a lion to not eat me just, ‘coz I don’t feed on lions !!
I think the best way out is to have be clear about my values and to stick to them and also to be flexible enough to accomodate people around my values. The way I see it , alienating from people is not the best option available. And not adhering to my values feels crappy in the end…so this is my best solution.
Note: To think that I would be able to change peoples belief or the way they see and do things, I have learned the hard way, is stupidity. Do not attempt it! Concentrate on yourself and your own thing.
2. True happiness is not really found in money,career,friends… For me , to be truly happy is to have peace of mind. That state when your mind is so at rest. You can sleep well, eat well and just be alive without worry and mind chatter. Thats true bliss.
So while money, fame, friends can add to bliss, they are not the only components or even the main components. For me to be really in sync with who I am, to see the positivity, the hope, the sky, the stars and to be alive in that moment- to be truly alive in the moment – thats true happiness.
Note: One of the biggest things that deters me from being in the moment is depending /loving/caretaking someone else to an extend beyond necessary. whether your partner, your child, your parent, do not overdo or over expect. Do your own thing – let them do their own. Something in the lines of – live and let live !
Also, do not think of what others think about us- thats their business not ours.
3.Self respect is earned.
And I think it is one of the major ingredients of becoming the best you. Nothing can work as a substitute for self esteem. being happy and secure in who you truly are is damn essential.
Through the trials and tribulations, through emerging winners at the challenges thrown at us by life we earn self respect. when, in spite of the challenges, and not because of the lack of them, we emerge victorious, thats when we give ourselves this prize of self respect. And it’s a prize like none other. Embrace your challenges- for if you do it right- it will award you with faith in yourself.
Go live, have an adventure. So that when god asks you how was heaven, you will have the answer ready. Discover yourselves, give youselves the wings to fly.
fish is bought, neither my fridge nor the humans of the house have any peace of mind. He needs to hold the fish, cuddle it, poke its eye, count its teeth, scream and run around complaining that the fish bit his finger ( the dead fish, imagine!) and that no one is to make sound as the fish is sleeping.
while me, the great and responsible mama that I am is more interested in books and other creative pursuits . 🙂
The Little Wonder 