I was adopted in 01′ and when ever I found my birth mom in August 25,2013 that is when I found out a truth that was explicably disgusting that I have deeply built so much anger for the state, it is a nightmare. To put it a short summary, I was illegally kidnapped by Dfs. I have the tpr that states it all. A 22 page police report of the beginning of the investigation.

My mom got judges and social workers cut from the case in the middle of it.

I have it all.

So I need help to be re-adopted back into my birth family. I need the right form to get Adult adopted. However, I was adopted already. Where is this form. My mom has 4 other children. She isn’t poor, but isn’t rich. So it’s tough this month. She doesn’t want to pay 3,000 for a lawyer to adult adopting.

I’m also not wanting anything to do with my adopted parents. Please help, anyone 

I am presently holding a beautiful, blue-eyed, strawberry-haired infant. I cannot go out in public without a stranger coming up to me to tell me what an adorable baby I have. I am not married to her father. I am not very old, do not have the best job nor the most money. I will probably not enjoy vacations or expendable income for the next twenty years. And you know what? I’m glad. I’m sooooooo happy that she is in MY arms right now and not yours. Nasty INFERTILE. Yeah, I said it – INFERTILE. Can’t have what came without effort to me. And it’s soooOooooOoooo unfair. You’re more deserving. Yet a soundly sleeping little bundle of love does not grace your arms. I have won. I hope you never are allowed to adopt a child – it seems evident you wouldn’t be respectful of that child… that child who you’d, perhaps, expect to be sympathetic to your inability to make a *real* child of your own? Right on. Also, I am endlessly grateful to people who put out blogs like this. Their stories, realities, are available to me and prevented me from potentially making a decision I surely would have regretted. INFERTILE, my beautiful baby is mine. And you haven’t one at all. Please do enjoy your vacations and your dogs.

Feminism does not care about the forced sterilization of people of color, transgender people, people with disabilities, or others. Feminism does not care that “undesirable” people have a higher rate of having their babies/children taken from their care under suspicious reasons. Feminism does not care that our society is set up to continue justifying taking children from their natural parents- refusing help to poor people because it’s so much more profitable to steal their babies than to preserve families. Feminism does not care that resources are not put towards improving the foster system so that kids who have to be taken from their natural family are in a better situation and get the care they need, eliminating the “Well, would you rather those kids rot in an orphanage?” argument for adoption.

Individual feminists do (although I question how many, they seem to be a small, but hopefully growing, minority) but as a whole, feminism does not. I fully agree with you- this needs to change.

And, yes, I believe it IS in part because of the number of adoptive parents, and the focus on adoptive parents within our culture and, in turn, feminism. Adoptive parents are privileged and powerful- they have the money to pay what would be two years’ salary for many just to get an adopted child. They raise their voices over their own children’s, even when those children grow up to be adult adoptees. They make it clear over and over and over again that if their children’s needs inconvenience them, they will ignore those needs. They paint a picture of natural parents as drug addicted, lazy, unfit parents so that they can justify having taken the children. They insist that babies NEED two white, Christian, middle class parents despite all the people who did not have that and thrived.

The heartbreak of infertile couples becomes more important than the heartbreak of natural parents who get their baby taken from them.

(Again- this is an overall. There are individual adoptive parents that are better and I hope that more are working towards doing what their children need. But look at how many parents go to international adoption in part so that they don’t have to deal with natural family.)

There are situations where the natural parent/s are close friends to the adoptive parents, and it’s my understanding that the adoption fees are very close to what it cost you to adopt-back your baby. I know people on welfare who have adopted babies/children from within their families or circles of friends. That is what adoption should look like- a small court fee, emphasis on keeping the baby within the same community, not tens of thousands of dollars. The exception should ONLY be when the parent/s are losing the child due to abuse, not when the parent/s are only losing the child due to poverty or disability or whatever else.