Seeking Hope in the Darkness


Some readers may be familiar with the quote, “The night is long and full of terrors.” While this is attributed to George R.R. Martin’s A Song of Ice and Fire, it is a phrase that keeps coming to my mind when I contemplate the current state of our country. It feels as though we have collectively been thrust into the depths of a hellish, unending Winter, with new threats around every corner, and reasons to be increasingly fearful at the dawning of each day.

I do not wish to rehash the last nine months of harmful Executive Orders, nor am I dismissing the uncertainty, fear, and uprooting of lives, as well as “American” principles and ideals that, until very recently, many of us may have been taking for granted. I, too, have been incredibly angry at what has been taking shape. I could go on about how I saw this coming a mile away, while others dismissed the notion that what is now transpiring could or would ever happen. I could tell you that my nervous system feels like it goes into a version of overdrive when I watch the news or sit for too long on social media; a feeling I have never been familiar with, but one that is becoming increasingly common for anyone who is paying attention. I could tell you that very often, I feel like just screaming, primal and raw. But as we all know, none of that will change a single thing. We experience many of these feelings because we feel helpless, hopeless, even. I, too, have felt this so often in recent months that it begins to create confusion about the veracity of these words. Are we, as single individuals, as well as the greater citizenry, helpless? Is the entirety of our current, collective experience hopeless? If you read this and think, “Yes,” I can’t in good conscience blame you.

However, if and when you begin to understand that everything that is happening is occurring by a very specific design, using everyday technology that has become weaponized for this purpose, with outcomes and chaos, fear, and turmoil happening at seeming breakneck speed, you can begin to see that other possibilities could also become true.

Through my own internal reflections in the last couple of weeks, I have come to the determination that to find hope in such darkness, to drive out the feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, and despair, we have to acknowledge the darkness. By God, we do NOT have to accept it, but we are required to acknowledge it. Presently, it seems that a vast portion of the country is frozen; a deer in headlights, so to speak. We are having difficulty wrapping our heads around what is happening (it is fast-paced on purpose), all while trying to do our jobs, get the kids to school and activities, put food on the table, and keep things as “normal” as possible for our youngest citizens.

We must acknowledge it all, the bad and the ugly. If we can start there, we can then begin forging a path back toward the light and human decency. To that end, I have an idea, though I am quite sure I am not reinventing the wheel here. I would like to create a digital space, this blog to start, to create a renewed sense of community. A space to bring forth the positive aspects that shine brightly in various corners of this country and the world. A space to share opportunities that support action. A space to crowdsource culture, art, and science – both information and community-based events and activities. A space to seek hope and find community. A space to become revolutionaries by marrying hope to action.

If you will join me on this new journey, then perhaps, with small steps, meaningful engagement, and working to serve the collective whole rather than simply ourselves, we can start to reclaim our lives, our communities, and our country.

P.S. It may not seem like a revolutionary action, but we should all challenge ourselves to spend more time off our phones and more time in raw, unfiltered, presentness. If you can add to that, try hugging a tree, or putting your bare feet in the grass (or sand). I promise you will feel better.

Perspective is everything…


 Currently listening to : The One I Love – David Gray

I, like most people, have a tendency to get sucked into the drib-drab misery that can sometimes be the day to day routine of living. Take Mondays, for example. How much bitchery is associated with that word; that day? When technically the week begins on Sunday! I suppose perhaps that is how I got to thinking about this today. Because it is Monday. Because so many find reason to complain about the beginning of the work week. I am not saying I never have. Sometimes I want the weekend to last a little bit longer. But at what point do we all stop complaining and seeing the negative in everything, and instead recognize the beauty in those same moments and thoughts?

I suppose everything is about perspective. And a lot of people are unable, unwilling, or completely ignorant of the possibility, of changing their perspective, even on the most mundane of situations and topics. To me, the person who bitches every Sunday and Monday that Monday is a horrible day (and really, these people get on my nerves because every seven days, the rest of us have to hear the same old complaint. Perhaps if it weren’t on such a frequent basis it wouldn’t bug me as much…) are the same ones who usually find something to nitpick about it being a rainy day, or about getting stuck in traffic. Or any of the things that happen a million times in a lifetime. Some things we have no control over. Like traffic. The only control you have is to try and avoid it – and to change your attitude about it. What is the point in getting pissed off and negative about something you can’t do anything about? Why not take the moments you find yourself wanting to yell or scream or punch a wall (may I then suggest Anger Management?), or even just complaining about it – why not take those moments and find something positive? It sounds trite, perhaps, but really, it is possible. And it is a good stress reliever. If not that, it at least puts life in a little bit clearer view. When I am stuck in traffic, even if there isn’t an accident, I usually assume that there is. And there are so many accidents that happen on a daily basis, that it’s not a stretch to make that assumption. And then I realize that me sitting in traffic, perhaps now running late to class or work or wherever I am headed, is in no way a reason to complain if someone else was injured or killed in an accident.

And on the topic of the Monday blues or whatever they are referred to as – even if the morning is dark and cloudy or rainy, as it was today – I force myself to find something positive to think about. Driving to work today, the sky wasn’t yet completely overcast in all places, and the sun was peeking through. I am a sucker for sunrise and sunsets anyways, but the redish sky and the clouds made a beautiful site to my left as I drove. That was all it took. The rest of the day was great. A little tiny miracle, all by itself, for about ten minutes before the sun disappeared for the rest of the day. But I’ve carried that around with me all day today. Even the rain couldn’t ruin it.

This has become long and rambling, and while I should apologize, I will not, because when I write on this blog, I write how it comes at me. I don’t often get the time to sit and blog the way I would like to. Not for lack of inspiration – but formal paper-writing and classwork has kept me busy. But tonight, I needed to let my fingers fly on the keyboard. The inspiration comes from me always seeing beauty in life. It’s everywhere. We barely need to look for it. But we have become so blind to it that it could smack most of us in the face and we wouldn’t know what hit us. We’re always rushing to the next thing, constantly complaining about not having enough, not moving fast enough, not being happy enough. Did anyone ever consider that if we stop once in a while – we don’t even need to stop, just slow down the speed from catapulting through space and time oblivious to what we’re passing – and witness life, that there are miracles everywhere?

 

People usually consider walking on water or in thin air a miracle. But I think the real miracle is not to walk either on water or in thin air, but to walk on earth. Every day we are engaged in a miracle which we don’t even recognize: a blue sky, white clouds, green leaves, the black, curious eyes of a child — our own two eyes. All is a miracle.” 

– Thich Nhat Hanh

Photoblog – Hiking the Falls


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Beginning of the Falls Trail at Rickett’s Glen State Park, PA

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These two pictures were at the top of a 100 foot waterfall. To give some distance perspective- if you look in the upper right hand corner of each photo, there are two people standing in the distance. Gives an idea of the height.

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Love this picture. The detail on the rocks and the water cascade. Love.

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Trying to capture how immense this outcropping was to the left of the waterfall (previous picture)

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And me…. towards the beginning of the hike. 7.5 miles in 2 1/2 hours. With an incline (and descent) of 1200-1500 feet. Not too shabby.

Get me back to the woods


Currently listening to : Just Another – Pete Yorn

So for all my wishing and pining for the woods and camping and hiking, I finally was able to make it happen in the last couple weeks. Two weeks ago, I ended up at Hickory Run, PA for a day-long hiking session, and the following week was jetting up to Rickett’s Glen for an overnight and another day of hiking.

Hickory Run was fabulous, and in a total of 4 trails was able to traverse about 14 1/2 miles. Total time (not counting breaks between trail hikes) was an unbelievable 4 1/2 hours. Pretty impressive. Hiked three miles out to a boulder field, where at 10:00 AM was able to sit and bask in the morning sunlight. Without a single cloud in the sky. And with the exception of a few children running over these rocks like they were running on air (quite unlike my own ungainly attempts at walking on unstable rocks and boulders, that’s for sure. I was much more concerned about twisting or breaking an ankle than those youngsters seemed to be!), it was quite.

Leaning against an angled rock still cool from the previous night’s air, the touch of the stone contrasted the warmth of the morning sun and the bright blue, cloudless sky. Butterflies appeared out of nowhere…seemingly drawn to that particular spot, smack in the middle of this gigantic field, and fluttered about in circles just above.

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[The pathway from the wooded trail down to the boulder field]carview.php?tsp=

[View from the end of the trail out onto the boulder field…notice the perfect sky]

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After about an hour break, just laying on the rocks and relaxing, the trek back up the trail, 3 1/2 miles back, began. It only took an hour each way to hike that distance, despite the trail being strewn with rocks and roots and everything you could possibly trip over if you didn’t watch your feet the entire duration of the hike.

After a short break at the car, the next hike commenced. It was shorter than the first, and led to a waterfall. Because it was closer to the road, more “non-hikers” and small children were able to access the falls, and because of that, there was an increased in the amount of garbage that these same individuals left behind. What do they honestly think is going to happen to the Arizona Iced Tea cans and containers of Pringles that they leave sitting on the rocks? As if it won’t all somehow end up in the water. It’s these people who need to be slapped in the face. With my hiking boots.

Anyway, the waterfall was gorgeous, and freezing. And perfect for shoe-less rock climbing. Which, may I add, is quite fun. Though from time to time, I forget, and look down, and then can’t remember how I got as far up as I did, and completely forget how to get down. I did find myself unable to go up (really, I did need both longer legs and longer arms to propel myself to the next foothold), and having anxiety about slipping and falling the whole way back down. I made it (obviously), and then promptly was mad that I couldn’t get all the way from the bottom of the falls to the top. Phooey.

[the entire left side rocks are what were scaled barefoot. Well, almost the entire way to the top]

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After this semi-hiking break to scale rocks and waterfalls, the next trail was a four-parter. It was a good hike, with the second trail leading up to a ridge with the Pocono mountains all in the distance. It was a semi-steep incline, which of course went back down into a little wooded valley where the trail abruptly cut off by the creek. It was fun trying to figure out where the actual trail was. And after finding it, quickly finding the next trail that led up steep switchbacks. Almost running up them was a work out. But I felt like I could go forever, despite the heaving chest and sweat dripping off my face.

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[looking back down the trail leading to the ridge]

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[Which way….? Such difficult decisions…]

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[Top of the ridge….looking West]

 

All in all, it was a fantastic day…perfect weather, barely any people, and just being in the woods and out in the elements….it  is quite invigorating and enlivening. I could stay forever…..

Going Ons…and Summertime


Currently Listening to:    Vacation Rain – Sister Hazel

 

So I apparently have some room for improvement with the regularity of posting. It’s been a busy couple of months. Classes started April 16th, and just finished this past Tuesday. In May I travelled to Roatan, Honduras, and wish I could have stayed. It’s that beautiful. My birthday was on Monday, but given the craziness of finals and final presentations, and work of course, we just had a little cake on Monday night. A little coconut cake, a little carrot cake, and a little swirl cheesecake, to be exact, courtesy of my sister 🙂

So…Roatan. A week spent relaxing, walking the beaches, snorkeling, and scuba diving. Pretty much perfection, as far as vacations go.

The weather was perfect for the first 2/3 of the trip before we got some stormy weather that moved in. But as far as I am concerned – rainy days in paradise beats rainy days at home in NJ!

The month of May seemed to fly by, though having a ten-day vacation smack in the middle probably helped it feel that way. June sped by quickly too…though dreading my birthday probably made the time go more quickly. The big 2-8. I never really cared about birthdays too much, but this year I had a particularly difficult time with it. I suppose because I feel like I am not quite where I want to be just yet. It’s the age (well, really, its been the last couple years up to now as well) where many people I grew up with are getting married, having kids, have their careers settled, etc. Or at least it seems that way. Obviously, people may appear to have the perfect, happy life, and that is not always so. And it’s never going to get me anywhere by comparing myself to others. But I was, nonetheless. And really, I suppose, I am where I need to be now. I will have my Master’s degree by the time or shortly after I turn 30, and hopefully a rewarding career lined up at that point.   For now, I plan on doing some volunteer work either in Philly or maybe Camden, depending on what organizations need help and when. I need to do something to feel like I’m putting my schooling to work, and I need to fill some time now that school is finished until September. I am so used to constantly working on schoolwork that this weekend I feel almost lost with nothing specific I have to get done. It’s kind of nice, though. 🙂

So June is over as of tomorrow, and the 4th is right around the corner. Planning on having a big BBQ to celebrate with 40 or so of my parents friends and our neighbors. Should be nice. Hopefully the weather isn’t too crazy hot though, like it has been since yesterday. And hopefully no wicked storms either!

Summer is the time when one sheds one’s tensions with one’s clothes, and the right kind of day is jeweled balm for the battered spirit.  A few of those days and you can become drunk with the belief that all’s right with the world. 

~Ada Louise Huxtable

Grades and Learning and Springtime


Currently Listening To:  Home – Michael Buble

 

So – it’s been about a month since the last post. For those who may actually read this, my apologies. Finished up my first term of graduate school – complete with a 4.0 average. I am not normally one to brag, but I do about this. Mostly because I have better grades now than the rest of my previous school existence. Not that I was ever a terrible student. But keeper of a 4.0 average I was not. So I feel like I should print out the grades and frame them. You know, for posterity. Because anyone other than me (and perhaps my family) really cares. 🙂  Anyway, it’s nice to finally feel like I’ve found my calling. Though I am still undecided about what specific aspect of public health I would like to ultimately commit myself to, I love that taking classes doesn’t seem like work because I love the subjects. I also love that this field is so vast that there are a multitude of opportunities, and I don’t necessarily have to end up where I may begin.

I may now want to mention that I am a self-described nerd. At one time in life, I would have detested that categorization, but I now embrace it whole-heartedly. I am a nerd when it comes to words, and grammar, and books. I am also a nerd when it comes to learning new things – if something interests me, I will research it to death to satisfy my curiosity. I am not entirely sure this is a normal character trait amongst most people, but I think it is a good thing. I think an interest in the world around me is a positive attribute. I personally don’t understand how some people go through life without that implicit interest in their surroundings, in books, in current events, in niche interest topics. I probably tend to also be more of a reference for useless knowledge. Though ‘useless’ is relative – because it’s not useless to me, even if I only know this information because I was interested in it for my self.

On another topic – I am loving Spring this year. I love Spring every year, but the weather has been amazing for the most part, and I enjoy my morning walks and afternoon runs around town. I am aware of the transformation that occurs in nature during this time, but I think this year I witnessed it with open eyes for the first time. Obviously, this change has occurred the last 27 years of my life, but I am just much more aware of it at present. Walking each morning I see the dew on the grass, my warm breath on chilled air, the budding of leaves on trees, daffodils in early bloom…the difference week to week between the trees having no leaves to starting to get leaves, and then all of a sudden it seems like everything just burst with new life. I find it quite amazing, in a quiet, timeless, unchanging process that repeats itself year after year. I also find it somewhat sad that I never fully noticed it the way I have been of recent. I feel like I missed out on something all those times before. carview.php?tsp=

Anyway…enough of sentimental babble about trees and flowers and birds singing. Though I did see a blue jay the other day, and it quite made my day, because I haven’t seen one in a particularly long time, it seems.

I am off to read for my epidemiology class. Exciting stuff 🙂

Spring has sprung….


Currently Listening to: Over and Over – Good Old War

 

Eighty degree weather in the middle of March is much welcomed around these parts. Granted, we have had perhaps two days of cold weather all winter (I think maybe it got down to the 20s a couple of times), but the early warm up is nice. Though it does leave room for  a bit of concern about what the summer will bring.  :-/

 

Finals are approaching. Well, final papers, that is, and one oral presentation. Then a week off, and then back at it for the summer term (which ends literally 8 days after summer begins. Score.) with Fundamentals of Environmental Health and Fundamentals of Epidemiology.  I’ve heard that Epi is somewhat difficult, but I am really looking forward to the class. We’ll see if I am of the same mindset in a month or so, haha.

And the workout trend continues. I have been lucky to get in at least one workout a day (with the exception of Monday – my day of rest during the week), and usually Thursday-Sunday I get two workouts in. Given the beautiful and warm weather, I have been walking 2 miles in the morning, and then running the same route in the afternoon, followed by my normal weights, crunches, push ups, etc afterwards. And I finally am just below 130 pounds! In a little under 7 months, I have lost 35 pounds, and gotten toned an in shape. I am now confident thacarview.php?tsp=t if I had to run for my life….I could actually do it 🙂  And I recently bought a bikini. Which may sounds trite. Or something. But considering in the past, I wear jeans in the summer instead of shorts and don’t put on a bathing suit unless it isabsolutely necessary….this is quite a big deal. I still need to get another one – but probably a one-piece, as it will work better under a wetsuit for diving in Honduras. The other one is just to look cute 🙂

 

And on that note…. I am off for work out # 2 – run uptown and back, and finishing up the rest back here. Need to take advantage of the weather, since it’s supposed to be wet, cold, and crappy the rest of the weekend. 😦 Adios!

For Some Moments In Life There Are No Words – Willy Wonka


Currently Listening to: Gone Away – The Offspring

There are days in one’s lifetime that are exuberantly happy, some that are just okay, and others that we wish we could either rewind and do over, or fast-forward through. There are days that make you contemplate the meaning of life, of our individual impact on the world, and why things happen the way they do.

When someone you know passes away, no matter how close you were or distant acquaintances, there is a gut-hitting-the-floor feeling when you hear that news. In the last 9 years or so since graduating high school, three people (two in my class) I know have left this world unnecessarily soon. The most recent was just a few days ago. And while I was not best friends with any of these individuals, nor did we necessarily spin in the same social circles, that overwhelming loss is just the same.  In some ways, I feel like I should not be, or am not entitled to the same sadness that those who were closer to them should be allowed, but I also think it speaks to the impact that these people have had on those around them.  Each circumstance is different from the next, but the binding tie is that they all went too soon. The difference they may have been starting to make in the world, the smiles they put on friend’s faces, the way their laughter could light up a room, the caring nature of each of them.  It makes me wonder why things work out the way they do. I have yet to find the answer. But perhaps in sadness (recent or still present) we can all find focus and make sure each person was a gift while they were here on Earth by continuing life’s work for them in their absence. To continue what they may have started, or to start something in their memory is a great way to honor such young people with so much potential and so much to offer us all.

I wrote this poem in 12th Grade, about a week after my grandmother passed away somewhat unexpectedly. I thought of it today, when I was thinking about what happened recently. I think it holds for the present as well.

“Sometimes I wonder.

Why do these things happen

The way that they do?

If everything really happens

For a reason, then I

Would like to have a word

With the master planner.

Because lately,

Life has turned a little upside down

And inside out.

 

I’ve never understood

Why it always seems that the best people–

The ones who work hard

And always put other people

Before themselves–

always end up

Being dealt the worst hand;

in the end.

 

I’ve seen friends put to the test

One more than one occasion

And no matter how many times it happens,

And no matter what the circumstances,

The hurt I feel for them

Never fails to come.

And of my family, too, it’s happened

Someone is lost who shouldn’t be–

Who is taken before their time.

 

I’d really like to know

why the fighters always seem to lose

And the bad guys always win

Sure, it’s true – life ain’t fair

But perhaps someone could offer a simple explanation.

 

In a reality full of so many questions

Can someone just give me an answer?” (c)

With this, I hope that those that have left too soon have been able to find peace. And I hope that in time, those that remained behind are able to as well.

Perhaps they are not the stars, but rather openings in Heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy.  ~Author Unknown

Early Bird Spring and Countdown to Paradise!


Currently Listening To:  Young Love – Gavin DeGraw

Mother Nature seems to be a bit confused these days. Not that I am really complaining. The Weather Channel currently clocks my town at 70 degrees. Yesterday was pretty warm also. Sun and wind and warmth. My kind of March. My kind of winter, really. And we have been lucky this winter (aside from whatever of this is caused by the effects of global warming) in only having about 3 inches of snow TOTAL. Hopefully, though, the summer doesn’t end up killing us with super crazy heat and humidity. It probably will. But for the moment, let’s enjoy the day, the sun, the warm air, and the beauty that is the world on the cusp of Spring.

In other news, another super prooductive non-work day. Lots of errands accomplished, and a morning work out to boot. I love getting stuff done. Then I feel less horrible when I waste time later on.  🙂

I also am pleased with my workout-toning progress. I (with my sister) signed up for 6 cross-fit training classes. Should be interesting to see how badly it kicks my ass. I have, to date, gone from a size 11 to a size 4 in clothes, and lose 30 pounds (seems that I have plateaued, but I think that may be more due to gaining muscle and losing fat at the same time). I am quite proud of myself!

I also am super excited about May. Which, if nobody else has been counting….is LESS than two months away. That makes me very happy. Because it means it is getting closer to summer, and it means it will be very close to leaving for Roatan, Honduras. Love it. Would live there, if life were sustainable long term.

I can’t wait to relax on the beach, explore the reefs under the waves, and socialize with the people, and spend some quality time with my family. Just lovely.

And on that note – get outside! Enjoy the day!

DC Summit Weekend Review


Last week was a whirlwind. Between having two midterms due Monday, and having to present one of them on Wednesday, then mom’s successful ankle surgery on Thursday, her coming home Friday, and me departing for Washington, D.C. on Saturday until Monday night – I’d say it was an eventful week, to say the least.

The trip to DC was both overwhelming (initially) and a great learning experience. I attended, along with about 14 other students from my school, the SOPHE Health Education Advocacy Summit. Most people who attend are professionals in the public health arena – from school administrators to advocates for the YMCA, American Heart Association, American Cancer Association, etc, to name a few. They did say there was an increase in the number of students overall this year, which is probably a good thing, because we need to start somewhere. So Saturday we arrived and the program began around 1:00. There were various speakers on what advocacy is, what it entails, and why it is important. There was also a speaker on the importance of social media in regards to advocacy. The day ended around 5, we got some dinner back near our hotel (which was a 2.5 mile hike across town since we waited too long to get a room). Sunday morning started bright and early at 8:00 straight through until almost 5:00PM. This time we sat at tables specific to which state we are from (Go New Jersey!). Everyone at my table was new to this summit, which helped put us all in the same boat. We spent a couple of hours in the afternoon meeting together to figure out our plan of attack for Monday.

Monday we met at the hotel, and everyone walked over to Capitol Hill together. We then split into our respective groups, and went off to meet with our state Congressmen and Senators. Our group met with both Senator Lautenberg and Senator Menendez’s legislative aides for about twenty minutes eacarview.php?tsp=ch to discuss and request their support for the issues of the Community Transformation Grants program, the No Child Left Behind Act (ESEA) (in regards to making PE and health education core classes in school), the Prevention and Public Health Fund, and the Health Prevention and Human Services Block Grant. Basically – asking for the support for these measures because paying now for prevention (say, regarding childhood obesity and the onslaught of diabetes that is following it) will beat the medical costs that will occur down the road trying to fix the problem. Pretty much, it costs less to have someone teaching prevention of smoking than to pay for chemotherapy for lung cancer 10 – 20 years from now.

It was good for us, because both Senator’s are on board with health education and prevention. I don’t personally understand why people wouldn’t be. Other than partisan politics tend to jade how people think. Either way, the visits went great, we are going to follow-up with both offices, and they seemed genuinely happy that we were there, and interested in what we had to say regarding the issues. So, a win for everyone.