This blog began as an experiment in words and civic humour. Over time it has become a place where I explore the quirks of Aotearoa’s politics, the oddities of daily life, and the challenges of communication when words don’t always come naturally. What you’ll find here is part satire, part reflection, and part rehearsal – an invitation to think alongside me.
What I write about now
I enjoy blending humour, civic insight, and personal anecdote. My writing often touches on:
- Motif‑driven humour and civic satire
- Coalition politics and consensus culture in Aotearoa
- Experiments with narrative devices – floating sidebars, reflective bursts, whakataukī closings
- Exploring communication differences and resilience in digital spaces
- Collaborating with AI conversational tools as rehearsal partners
A note on communication
I’m autistic, and I live with alexithymia, aphantasia, prosopagnosia, dyschronometria, and anendophasia. These shape how I experience language, memory, and interaction. Rather than seeing them as barriers, I use them as motifs – ways to rethink how communication can be hospitable, resilient, and sometimes delightfully imperfect.
For me, writing is not just about producing polished text. It’s about experimenting, rehearsing, and finding clarity in conversation. That’s why I sometimes lean on tools such as Copilot: they don’t judge, they don’t tire, and they help me shape ideas into words I can share with others.
Where I began
When I first set up this blog back in 2014, I introduced it in simple terms. I wanted a space to share observations, test ideas, and occasionally poke fun at the quirks of everyday life. At the time, I didn’t yet have the language to describe my style as civic satire or motif‑driven humour – I just knew I enjoyed writing pieces that blended wit with reflection.
That early About page captured the spirit of starting out: curiosity, a touch of mischief, and a willingness to experiment. Looking back, it feels like a snapshot of a younger voice – one that was still finding its footing, but already reaching for the themes that continue to shape my writing today.
I’ve kept that origin here not only as a reminder of where I began, but also as a marker of continuity. The blog has grown, my voice has matured, and my understanding of myself has deepened, yet the impulse remains the same: to write, to reflect, and to invite others into the conversation.
Who am I?
A good question. I’m not entirely sure, which is one of the reasons for starting this blog. I have always been considered by people who don’t know me well (and some who do know me well) as being “a bit different”, “odd” or “quirky” and socially naive. I’ve always has problems relating to others, but it was only when I reached the age of sixty that I learnt of the probable reason. It was then that I was diagnosed as being on the autism spectrum.
As my only understanding of autism at that time was from Dustin Hoffman’s character in the movie Rainman, I was appalled by the diagnosis, but as I have learnt more about what being on the spectrum really means, it feels like I am finally putting together the pieces of the jigsaw that make me who I am. Today, I am comfortable enough to acknowledge that I am an aspie.
While I’m intending to remain relatively anonymous, I’m not bothered too much that some who may happen to stumble across the blog may recognise me. Those that are important to me already know me better that I do, so are unlikely to be surprised by anything I post here. For anyone else that may make the connection between the person who inhabits this blog and my public persona: if it bothers you, tough bikkies.
So Who am I? I’m a Pakeha male born in the late 1940’s. I attended three primary schools and two secondary schools as my father’s job necessitated moving to a new area with each promotion. I worked for the same multinational for over thirty years in a customer support role until health issues forced an early retirement at the age of fifty. No doubt I will reveal more about myself in my blog posts.
Invitation
This space is not just mine – it’s ours. If something here sparks a thought, a laugh, or even a challenge, I welcome you to kōrero. The comment section is open.
Header images on this blog reflect “my place.” Most are drone shots taken above our home, showing Feilding and the surrounding ranges. From time to time, seasonal or milestone images — or even a flower from our garden — may appear. This mix keeps the header familiar yet fresh, a reminder that while the view is constant, the details are always changing.
6 Jun, 2014 at 4:37 pm
Welcome to the world of blogging, Barry. I’m looking forwarded to reading your posts.
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6 Jun, 2014 at 8:34 pm
Thanks for the warm welcome Doobster
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12 Aug, 2014 at 2:06 am
Hi Barry. I admire you for being open about your diagnosis of autism. Welcome to WP. Someday, I hope to visit NZ. It’s on my bucket list. It’s a beautiful country and I’ve met many awesome people (online) from there.
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12 Aug, 2014 at 2:38 am
Thank you for your comment. Autism is widely misunderstood, and if I manage to keep this blog going, I hope to correct some misconceptions.
If you do get to visit here, don’t come with rose tinted glasses. You’ll be disappointed if you do. I believe it’s a wonderful place, but it is far from perfect.
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12 Aug, 2014 at 2:47 am
I took off my rose tinted glasses a long time ago, but you can’t deny the perfectly breathtaking beauty of NZ. 🙂
I agree that there is a lot of misconceptions about ADS as well as all neurological, neurodevelopment disorders. They are most often stigmatized, especially by certain sects of mainstream Christianity who believe that mental disorders are caused by Satan and demons.
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12 Aug, 2014 at 2:58 am
Perhaps mainstream Christianity here differs from that in the States. There might be a few fundamentals sects that believe they can “cure” ADS by casting out demons, but they would be a distinct minority. One or two mainstream churches still oppose GLBT rights, but otherwise they seem positively liberal in comparison to the situation in the U.S.
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12 Aug, 2014 at 2:58 am
Correction: I meant to write ASD
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12 Aug, 2014 at 3:01 am
I just made the same mistake 🙂
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12 Aug, 2014 at 3:05 am
😀
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12 Aug, 2014 at 3:03 am
“they seem positively liberal in comparison to the situation in the U.S.”
Which is why I have a great appreciation for your country. It’s not just Protestant fundamentalists in the U.S. and elsewhere that stigmatize — the largest Christian denomination in the world does. The RCC.
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12 Aug, 2014 at 1:22 pm
Continuing from your comment on GC’s post: You wrote:
“I’m rarely completely pain free, and migraine symptoms that cause some level of impairment occur approximately 20 days of the month. These can include prolonged aura, hemiparesis, fever, impaired consciousness, ataxia, photophobia, phonophobia and aphasia. I’ve had migraines since my early teens, but they have been getting worse over the last 20 -25 years at an ever increasing rate.”
My mother had epilepsy, but it’s under control now and so are her migraines. She had nearly every symptom you mentioned and suffered for over 40 years. As I mentioned on GC’s post, there was a period when they were chronic.
I was curious: do you have seizure disorders in your family history?
“New research reveals a shared genetic susceptibility to epilepsy and migraine. Findings published in Epilepsia, a journal of the International League Against Epilepsy (ILAE), indicate that having a strong family history of seizure disorders increases the chance of having migraine with aura (MA).”
“https://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2013-01/w-ait010313.php
Again, Barry, I’m so sorry that you suffer with chronic migraines. I saw what my mother went through. I can understand why certain aspects of religion would be comforting. I hope science finds a cure very soon. Thanks for sharing so personally.
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12 Aug, 2014 at 2:18 pm
There’s no history of seizure disorders, but there is a history of migraine through at least five generations. I seem to be the only male with migraine, and the only one that doesn’t present with “Common” or “Classic” migraine symptoms.
I’ve had migraines for over 50 years so I have learnt to accept them as part of my life. Currently I’m not on any medication, as every one tried so far (over twenty types) has either been ineffective, or has side effects that outweighed any benefit.
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12 Aug, 2014 at 2:46 pm
That’s too bad about the side effects outweighing the benefits. That seems all too common with prescription meds. Have you ever tried a combination of cannabis and triptans or have you tried cannabis alone? If so, did that help? As you may already know, THC, or Tetrahydrocannabinol. binds to receptors found throughout the body’s brain and other parts of the nervous system . Cannabis is both anti-inflammatory and analgesic.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/your-brain-food/201309/marijuana-migraines
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12 Aug, 2014 at 9:08 pm
Cannabis/THC are prohibited substances here. End of story.
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12 Aug, 2014 at 2:51 pm
I also found it interesting that cannabis was a standard treatment for migraines from 1874 to 1942.
Abstract
“Cannabis, or marijuana, has been used for centuries for both symptomatic and prophylactic treatment of migraine. It was highly esteemed as a headache remedy by the most prominent physicians of the age between 1874 and 1942, remaining part of the Western pharmacopoeia for this indication even into the mid-twentieth century. Current ethnobotanical and anecdotal references continue to refer to its efficacy for this malady, while biochemical studies of THC and anandamide have provided a scientific basis for such treatment. The author believes that controlled clinical trials of Cannabis in acute migraine treatment are warranted.”
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0304395998000335
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12 Aug, 2014 at 9:28 pm
Cannabis and synthetic cannabinoids are banned here, even for medical use.
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12 Aug, 2014 at 1:24 pm
Ooops, that link didn’t work
https://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2013-01/w-ait010313.php
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8 Dec, 2014 at 8:27 am
Barry, have you hung up the blogging spurs? Been a while since your last post and even since I last saw a comment from you. I hope you’re okay.
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9 Dec, 2014 at 12:04 am
It’s nice to know that someone has noticed my absence ☺
My health has not been the best lately. Combine that with chronic migraine events (low to moderate pain levels, but moderate to high levels of cognitive dysfunction) and I find that I loose the ability to understand complex or abstract ideas, let alone respond to them.
There are a number of topics I’d like to post about, but at the moment they are just short bulleted lists waiting to be expanded into sentences and paragraphs. When I’ve regained the ability to contribute by commenting to other posts, I’ll be ready to restart blogging.
No I haven’t hung up my blogging spurs yet.
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9 Dec, 2014 at 2:53 am
I’m sorry, Barry, about your migraines. I don’t suffer from them, but I know from those who do that it can be debilitating. I hope you start to feel better soon and can get back into the swing of blogging…and everything else in life that your migraines have interfered with.
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7 Mar, 2015 at 10:04 pm
Hey Barry, just showed up here to say hello.
Happy blogging
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7 Mar, 2015 at 11:49 pm
Thanks, I seem to spend more time commenting on other blogs than I do posting on my own. I’m better at joining a conversation than starting one.
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8 Mar, 2015 at 2:31 am
That itself, participating in conversations, is good enough. We still get to meet and interact.
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17 Apr, 2016 at 5:56 pm
Nice to meet you Barry and hi to makagutu and Clare. -wave-
This is what I love about blogging – communities form from shared interests rather than the vagaries of geography, although as an Aussie you and I are almost neighbours, Barry.:)
I hope you continue to blog when you feel up to it.
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17 Apr, 2016 at 6:32 pm
Hello neighbour ☺
One of the nice things about blogging is that I can communicate at my own pace. This is something that’s not available to me in the real world during migraine episodes.
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17 Apr, 2016 at 11:56 pm
-waves- I definitely know where you’re coming from re keeping to your own pace. I have no health issues but real life still comes first so I appreciate not being tied to any external deadlines or schedules.
Btw my niece gets horrible migraines too so I’ve seen how awful they can be first hand. 😦
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8 May, 2015 at 5:47 am
I find Aspergers fascinating. I have known one or two people with it, and when my friends realised their son had Aspergers, it was a great relief. He had certain difficulties, and it all fell into place. It is lovely to meet you.
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20 Sep, 2015 at 6:58 pm
Hi Barry great to meet you and welcome to my blog. I notice you like Paul Curran’s guest post’s my blog is very different to his style. He is guesting over at Mark’s blog at https://markbialczak.com/ for all of September do visit him over there. I am mainly a poetry blog but I would love for you to have a look around.
Incidentally I have a nephew of 33yrs who has Aspergers and also I have a friend who like you found out she had it too in her sixties. Nice to meet you 🙂
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20 Sep, 2015 at 7:40 pm
Thanks for the welcome to your blog Willowdot. I must confess I’m not a poetry fan, but I promise I will stop by your blog again and have a look around.
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21 Sep, 2015 at 3:06 am
thanks Barry Paul will be here every Sunday after this month is up!
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24 Jan, 2017 at 7:19 am
You’ve been nominated for a 2017 best autism blog male perpective here https://the-art-of-autism.com/vote-for-2017-favorite-blog-male-perspective/
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3 Jul, 2017 at 5:36 am
https://polldaddy.com/js/rating/rating.jsBarry, your blog is currently included on our Actually Autistic Blogs List (anautismobserver.wordpress.com). Please click on the “How do you want your blog listed?” link at the top of that site to personalize your blog’s description.
Thank you.
Judy (An Autism Observer)
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18 Feb, 2018 at 6:13 am
https://polldaddy.com/js/rating/rating.jsBarry — didn’t know where else to put this since I couldn’t immediately find an email or a contact page. You recently left a comment on my Adult Behavior post and it went to Spam. Within microseconds after I hit the delete button, I saw it was from you. So sorry. Of course you’re welcome to repost your comment if you wish.
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18 Feb, 2018 at 7:27 pm
Whatever it was, I’ve completely forgotten 🙂
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7 Jun, 2022 at 12:56 am
HI, it’s Thecla from Woodbrooke online. I’d like to send you the draft of what we want to send to other Quaker groups but can’t find your email address. I’m on [email address supplied] if you’d like to reply directly.
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7 Jun, 2022 at 12:39 pm
Hi Thecla, I’ll reply to you directly shortly. I have edited out your email address as I don’t want it to be a source for Spam.
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27 Aug, 2024 at 4:27 am
Well done, Barry. Completely forgotten? I get that often too. The Spouse is getting used to it, I hate it.
SFX: cue here “Do Not Go Gentle Into That Good Night” …
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6 Sep, 2022 at 4:16 am
Hi Barry, thank you for following my blog. You’ve got a great blog here yourself and I look forward to reading more. 🙂
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27 Aug, 2024 at 4:15 am
In this life I seem to have been singularly lucky, and have no idea what I’ve ever done to deserve it. Luck of the draw? But at least it gives me the chance to get my opinions out into the world … and for me, that is very very important.
My advice? Simply try to do the best you can with what you’ve got; take it one baby step at a time, and remember always that the only opinion of YOU that matters a damn is your own.
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